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David Albarro's avatar

Something I didn’t realize would be so difficult in my early twenties is making friends. Leaving college and my hometown you realize you actually have to make an effort. The line about not having a five year plan and or a six figure salary is sooo real too! Subscribed instantly

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Tiana Dashay's avatar

Definitely there are a world of people out there. You never know who’s waiting to connect with you. And The thought of not having either of those things always makes me want to hide but nope I don’t haha Thank you for reading.

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Blume's avatar

That first paragraph was like ... "Did I write this??"

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Tiana Dashay's avatar

Resonance be like!!!

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seph's avatar

wowowowowow, THANK YOU for putting my frustrations for the past year in one piece.

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Tiana Dashay's avatar

It’s hard out here for an adult trying to make friends, maintain friendships etc.😭

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Chloe Lee MH's avatar

Making a connection doesn't always seem to translate into committing to a labor of maintaining a friendship. It's tough! I hate to say it, but my bandwidth for friendships has dwindled to almost nothing compared to how I was in my 20s because of the constant rejection and "giving way too much with little in return." That hurt stays with you. Then it's also the grief of many variations of loss I've endured since. Peace of mind > risk.

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Tiana Dashay's avatar

Yes the hurt does stay with you. Every now and then it resurfaces for me then I just get back to life. I focus on where the love is in who I already have in my life mostly now.

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Erin Louise's avatar

Wow Putting into words my feelings around social media as someone who’s been posting on YouTube since early 2011 and grown up online!! Can’t wait to read more of your words x

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Tiana Dashay's avatar

Oh wow what a timeline you’ve traveled!! Thank you for reading<3

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Dumebi Agbam's avatar

This was such a good read!!

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Tiana Dashay's avatar

Thank you for reading💗

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Ms Tembo's avatar

this is so true. ( + why did i expect another paragraph after your last paragraph?😭

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Tiana Dashay's avatar

It definitely gave cliff hanger😭. More lessons contemplations on friendship to come, Thank you so much for reading.

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Isla Delphi's avatar

I wish I was brave enough to ask for people’s numbers! Though my introvert self worries I might invite an energy vampire of sorts into my field and u won’t be able to keep up—all while also craving deep, meaningful connection.

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Tiana Dashay's avatar

Assign your own meaning to what being brave looks like and go for it. Energy vampires are inevitable sadly but if you know you have the ability to spot them out then surely you will drop them faster than they attached themselves to you. You got this💗

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Ebony A.'s avatar

Loved every word of this!

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Tiana Dashay's avatar

Thank you Ebony🫶🏾

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Zed's avatar

This is so real. Social media really is the easy out. But I do wonder if we are all so overloaded with all the people that we're "connected" to, the mere idea of trying to deepen one of these bonds can cause overwhelm. We've swapped a few good quality relationships with superficial interactions that demand less of our resources and time.

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Tiana Dashay's avatar

Absolutely! That’s why I like to step back and breathe and see who I’m really “connected” to in real life.

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Anna's avatar

i loved this! never related sm 🥹🫶🏻

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Tiana Dashay's avatar

Thank you for reading🫶🏾

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