The value in choosing

With choice comes vision

Honestly, Today beat me up really bad. I never know how to approach my need for support because in my head “everyone has shit going on, I don’t want to intrude”. I held a cry in all day at work. Then when I got the chance to, I cried periodically throughout the day. It was painful. There goes that spiral again. I honestly feel undiagnosed with something but I also don’t need another label to define me. All I wanted was a hug but I look up and around me and as always……. I’m alone again. I’ll write about it but tonight

THIS IS NOT ABOUT ME AT ALL

While I don’t mean to sound like a cheesy hallmark card these words sat in my heart. It didn’t feel like one person needed to hear this but so many. So here goes something:

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I feel the changes already as time prepares to shift us into spring. If only we measured time by the seasons alone and not by clocks we may feel a little more at ease in existence getting things done or our lack of. Instead we say stuff like “I’m getting my shit together” seriously does anyone knows what the really means? Is it just me or has winter 2022 been the longest one yet? Spring 2023 feels like something we’ve been waiting for. It’s pivotal and conducive to growth. While we may have been engaging in moments, people, patterns, experiences and behaviors that are far less worth our time we finally see the value in choosing.

As long as you know you always have a choice in everything, you can make it through anything.

Sometimes it feels as if life is happening to us but oh how you didn’t know that life was begging for your active participation.

Life is nothing without it’s co-creators

We’ve always had a choice but it was presented to us as if we had no choices at all.

“Yes I have to stick it out although i’m miserable”

“I hate it here”

“No I cant quit”

“Damn I’ll never….”

“Every time I take 10 steps forward I take 2 back”

Don’t you know there is always something better? What you’re used to isn’t the best thing yet because the best is yet to come. Where there is resistance and tension means that movement needs to take place. So pay attention to all the tiny places you feel resistant. There may be a message there for you if you get quiet enough to listen.

With choice comes vision

because you finally see that there is no limit.

You start to see your life playing out in so many different ways.

You must have forgot that before you were at this stage in your life you were in a previous stage so you’ve been making progress all along truthfully.

Finally, you opened your eyes to see that nothing is out of reach. It’s just a matter of time, belief, doing your part, and most importantly getting clear on the vision and holding it.

As you get clear on what you want the rest of 2023 to look like don’t forget to

Hold the vision. Through everything. Hold the vision even when things look rocky. Hold the vision even in the plateau. Hold the vision like your life depends on it because it does.

and let the shit unfold and take form. Focus on the essence of it all and not the specifics of “how”.

Take it from me and release yourself from the holding period of staying the same and changing. Allow yourself to cross over the threshold.

Mourn who you used to be but make space for who you want to become because you’ll need plenty of it.

This version of you is BIG. This version of you acknowledges uncertainty but trust that everything will work out anyway. This version of you makes space for what is trying to come in because in order to receive you need to actively be letting go of things at the same time. This version of you is good at making decisions.

There is power in your no

If it’s not fully body a yes then it’s a full body no.

You feel that pit in your stomach every time you over extend and over give when you just wanted to say no. You feel your heart racing. You feel your breathing pattern get shallower.

Due to fear of rejection, or simply caring about others more than ourselves we have been conditioned to people please and to say yes anyway.

Even when you hear no it’s not the end of the world.

No is redirection to what you want

What do you think would happen if you started saying yes to everything you actually wanted instead of yes to things out of obligation which ultimately leave you full of resentment?

I see you, I am inspired by you, I believe in you.

Rest. Recover. Re-ignite.

GO AFTER IT, with ease of course because I *promise* you there is no rush.

Most of all, stop and smell the roses every single day like your life depends on it because it definitelyyyyyy do.

your virtual friend,

Tiana♡