The Art of being human: maybe, just maybe you should try being more human.

"fuck it", why is everything so stressful? worse case scenario or best case fantasy? A change in perspective? maybe you should try being more human.

I take regular bubble baths to cope with the human condition It’s when the steam from the bath water and the sun coming from my window meets my skin and my skin is textured and dewy I remember there is no escaping imperfection I’m ugly and I’m pretty.

Why is everything so stressful all the time? There’s stress , you know the stress of packing for a 1 week vacation to your island of choice that you don’t feel prepared for. Then there’s the stress you have about the girl you used to like, then you caught a flat tire, then your mom is trauma dumping but she shouldn’t be because she’s the parent. Then there’s feeding yourself and coming up with meals to eat every single day. Yes, then there’s stress from needing to move out your apartment and go grocery shopping for your new place. Sometimes this shit happens all at once or in a week. You find yourself spiraling and you feel like you need a meeting with your therapist STAT. I have two words for this. Fuck it. I would advise you to learn how to use these words more often.

On one hand, YES there is much to be stressed about. We’re in a food crisis, there’s inflation, a housing crisis etc. I know at least 4 people who have moved back home in order to save within the last 2 years alone. Rent went from $800 to 1,800 real quick (where I live). So I get it but I don’t feel like blaming the system today so I will blame you. Do you want to die with the stress or die doing your best to move away from it? I’d take the latter.

"You can do it like it's a great weight on you, or you can do it like it's a part of the dance" -Ram Dass

Stress has become our personality trait and we don’t know how to separate ourselves from it. We tuck that shit in at night with us and wake up with it. It’s to the point where our default mode is stress. We’re playing the game in all the wrong ways. From our need to solve every problem with mere perfection, to outsourcing our brain cells because of an infatuation with asking Chat GPT “Hey what do you think of this?” Excuse me? Why are you constantly asking a machine what it “thinks”? I am here to remind you that you run this show and at anytime you can decide to simply say fuck it my hands are tied.

shibari style (I don’t know the original owner of this illustration)

I’m not talking about the fuck it where you let yourself go and never try again. I’m not talking about how we pretend to not feel anything. No, I’m talking about the roaring, raging, fuck it that says “Today was chaotic but there’s tomorrow” “I did something really stupid and you know what? I actually don’t feel like beating myself up for it”.

Everyone wants their best life but forget that their best life is not devoid of stress, rejection, pain, anger, feeling played, getting played, ignored, hating, being hated on etc. All that shit comes with life but it is not the main point. The point is a change in fucking perspective and I fear that it’s not something Chat GPT can teach you. Only YOU can teach you that by going out into the wild (life) and getting dirty but also wiping yourself off. The same way you wash your favorite shoes because you stepped in muddy grass. After all, they are your favorite shoes. You treat them with care. You treat everything you enjoy with care.

Yes there is someone out there who likes you because why wouldn’t they? You’re the shit. There is no need to decide in your mind that you’re unlovable over an awkward moment where you showed “too much emotion” in text because you’ve only been dating for 3 weeks. Yes, there is a job that wants to hire you because you’re IT. You do what you do and you do it well. Why would you get looked over for something with your actual name on it? Yes there are walking trails to be walked while blasting Kiss me by Sixpence None The Richer . Yes there are creative pursuits calling your name even though you could choose a “real job. I say fuck the real job for now, go be a nomad. Yes, there are lips to be kissed whether it is with a stranger or your person of 6 years. Yes it’s time to dust those roller skates off and go for a spin.

Can you use your minds for once to at least be on our side? Can you let go of your worse case scenarios and trade them for the best case fantasies? Can you actually picture yourself getting exactly what you even knowing that the possibilities of stress are there but let’s make them slim?

Sometimes you will be wrong and need to apologize, and sometime you don’t get that apology or give it, sometimes the car will get fixed 2 months later, sometimes you pick the wrong person again because yes your taste in people is horrible and you have not learned your lesson yet. Fuck it. There are mistakes to be made and after you make that mistake….make some more. While you are on your way, don’t forget to be human. Use your mind to make your life chaotically gorgeous. I’m a Taurus sun, moon and Capricorn rising I don’t live life, life lives me. It’s sensual, it’s clumsy, it’s full of starring so hard that you’re having sex with your eyes, it’s full of misunderstandings, conversations gone wrong( I have a nasty habit of telling people exactly what they don’t want to hear lol )and chaos. And above all else I have not forgotten how to be human and all of this is entirely the point.